10 years ago today my beautiful mother passed away peacefully March 20th 2011
The very next day after Dawood turned 4
Let me tell you a little bit about my Umma my everything š
Since this has been one of my frequently asked questions I thought Iāll put them in words todayā¦.
Please please say a tiny prayer for her : this would mean so much to meā¤ļø
When a person dies,all his deeds come to an end except three : Sadaqathul Jaaria (ongoing charity), beneficial knowledge which he has left behind, or a righteous child who will pray for him (Tirmidhi)
Losing a parent is one of the hardest things someone can ever go through and watching the other parent live alone is even harder than you would ever knowššš
My beautiful mother is Hamziya Hanoon,originally from Colombo married to my father who hails from Gampola
She didnāt live longer than 54 years of her life she was diagnosed with dilated cardiomyopathy during one of her annual visits to Indiaā¦.
She lived with it for almost 14 years of her life and we all lived it with her because we were helpless and there was not much we could do to ease her painā¦
It was a rare heart condition at the time : basically an enlarged heart
Her doctor would always make her feel better by saying āMrs.Nazimudeen God has blessed you with a big heartā„ļø ā and that no one can deny my mother was one of the most generous ppl you will ever knowā¦.
She suffered silently but that never stopped her from doing what she did best : spreading kindness and love š
hence why I keep saying it like a prayer to myself and our kids everyday āBE KINDā even if theyāre UNKIND to youā¦.
We are far from a perfect family : no one or nothing is ever perfect but my mom taught us a lot before she diedā¦not by life lesson lectures for sure
She lived a life that we experienced with her and we hope to continue in her foot stepsā¦
Dawood, Juwairiya and the rest of the kids in the family before them have been the luckiest grandchildren because they were able to live with her for at least a few years of their lives.She loved kids and they make her so happy.No doubt Bilal was her number one !!!The kid on the right is Bilal my nephew whoās a handsome young man today
Umma had many siblings and she was ever so fond of them no matter what : would never let any of us think otherwise
They were all very different to each other but she was the glue that kept everyone going
When I mean siblings it means apart from her own siblings she had cousins and cousinsā cousins š¤£š¤£š¤£ and even my dadās cousins because thatās how far her circle wasā¦.Bless her
She had cousins of all kinds some live here some abroad and they would still keep contact with her no matter what : I remember every Eid we used to exchange cards for all relatives living abroadā¦What a wonderful feeling š
Do you know why they all loved her so much ???
Unconditional Love with No Judgments and thatās exactly how she wanted us to liveā¦.
My point here is that no two people are alike even if theyāre your own.No one chooses their family their parents their spouse their children : Everything is chosen by Your Creator and thereās a responsibility we have towards them : Love and respect them for who theyāre and accept them with their flaws
Time in this world is very short so make the most of it by loving and forgivingā¦BE KIND
Appreciate little things and donāt expect too much from anyone even if theyāre your own children because theyāre not brought into this world to serve usā¦
The world would be such a beautiful place if we all lived by thatā¦.
Anyway just a little something I wanted to share on this day : small things we learnt have really brought us this far
Much Love to allā¤ļø